Quick Calm Down Techniques

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When tempers flare we are not ourselves. That's why it's important to always stay calm. We don't want to do or say something that we will regret. The tips below will help you calm down quickly when you start to feel yourself turning into the Hulk.

1. Take Slow, Deep Breaths
Breathe in calmly counting to three, hold your breath for one second, then breathe out for three seconds. Concentrate on your breathing to keep your mind off the problem while you calm down.

2. Repeat the Phrase "Calm Down"
While you are breathing in and out, keep telling yourself to "Calm Down." By repeating a mantra like this you are blocking out negative thoughts and concentrating on putting yourself in a calmer mood.

3. Punch Something That is Not Breakable and Soft Enough Not to Hurt You, Such as a Pillow or Punching Bag
Sometimes the anger gets built up so high that you need to release the excess energy you are holding inside. Releasing that anger by punching until your energy is drained. You should feel an immediate sense of calm. I have a heavy bag (punching bag) in the basement that I hit when I am stressed or angry and it really helps me relieve those feelings quickly, so I consider it a good investment if you have the room in your home (and it's a great workout!).

4. Write in a Journal
Put your feelings into words. Rather than saying something that you'll regret later to another person, put it on paper or type it into your computer. I personally recommend deleting it once you're done, but if you were to read it later you would see how silly it all is and would be glad you didn't vocalize your angry feelings. Writing can help you calm down and see what the true issue is. You can emerge with a level head ready to resolve the issue you were angry about.

5. Count Down from Ten
Emotions tend to come from the left side of the brain, while mathematical thoughts come from the right side of the brain. By switching the brain hemisphere you are using you can override the negative thoughts that are causing you to be angry.

6. Surround Yourself with Things That Make You Happy
Watch a funny movie, listen to cheery music, take a walk outside to enjoy nature, or spend some time with your pets. Whatever it is that normally brings you peace and happiness will help you start to feel good again.

With the tips above you are sure to start feeling better. Remember that emotional scars run much deeper than physical ones. Don't say something you'll regret later. Take the time to calm down.

If you're in an argument, read the link below for tips on how to not take things personally:
How to Not Get Defensive During an Argument